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He who gives you life

What Does Safe or Never Giving Up Look Like?


Today, I come to you to share a resent experience that no parent wants to experience.

A couple of years ago, my son decided to move out with some ‘friends’.  I continued my mission of being a concerned parent.  I reached out to him by calling him and texting him. Eventually, those messages became void.  He didn’t respond that often if at all.  So, I would resend those same messages again.  Those messages were messages of love, concern and not condemnation.  Being human we want to judge, accuse and vent but, I choose to show unconditional love.  During this time I was in a relationship with a man that I planned to marry.  I honestly feel that my son thought he was being abandoned because, of all more poor choices that I had made in men. Eventually, I got married, we then combined households to where I was residing to complete the lease I was in.  So, the pressure on my son was on him and his belongings. Even, though I said you can live here with us, but, I have not seen you for months. Eventually, my son and his friends came to pickup his stuff. As time went on I reached out to my son, trying to make time for him each and every week.  Telling him let’s go out to eat, or do something you enjoy doing.  I wanted my son to know he is loved and he can come to me anytime and I will be there for him. I mentored my son weekly if not daily.

Eventually, the poor choices caught up with him.  He had tickets that he received when he was riding on his motorcycle, these tickets turned to unpaid tickets, court and work project that didn’t happened so it landed him in jail for a couple of days. During, his jail time, I asked God to grab a hold of my son and show him he is meant for more in life then the motorcycle club he was caught up in.  My son was released from jail and his father picked him up.  His father and step-mother went and saw him.

I never went to see him.  Why?  Because, I didn’t want to see him in jail.  I wanted him to feel the pain of someone not being present in their life.

We had lunch together a day or two later, where my son said to me, you don’t love me, if you did you would have come to see me in jail.  I said, I love you but, I don’t want to see you there in that predicament.  I felt I would be condoning his behavior, poor choices, by being there for him when it was too late.  Or was it too late?  I planned to go, then, I thought should I go see him?  I wanted him to have this time to repent, and think about things the direction he was headed.  I knew the time was not long lived (a couple of days). He shared with me that this was something he never wanted to experience again.  He shared many more things with me.

I continued my mission of being a parent that loved, cared for and I still was concerned for my son.  I continued to text and call him.  One week when I had to travel out of town for work.  I couldn’t sleep for two days.  I kept having bad dreams about my son.  Then, off topic my sister called me about health concerns for our mom.  So, I texted my son about this…didn’t hear from him for a few days.  Then, a phone call came in, where my son was on the other end asking for help.  He was trying to self medicate due to a tragedy that took place at the age of 13 years old.  My son was having withdrawals and having suicidal thoughts.  I prayed for him and asked where he was at the time, he said I am on my way to you.  I said, I can come get you.  He said he was okay to drive, so we talked for a while on the phone.  I continued praying that he would arrive safely to my doorstep and I prayed that he would follow through with getting help by heading to emergency when he arrived.  I met him in the front of the house.  He got out of the car and came and hugged me, cried, sobbed, shared his thoughts and his feelings.



Hungry and Thirsty


Then Jesus declared, I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.John 6:35


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Which one is working for you?

How do I exhibit ________in my daily life?

The path to life…

You make known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.
Psalm 16 NIV

Baking Ingredients With A Purpose

Cramer's Bakers

My mission is to give you the confidence and self-sufficiency for an independent life by using baking ingredients.  I am here to give you consistent support, guidance and encouragement. I want to show you how to think out of the box when it comes to baking at home.

 Understanding What My Purpose Is

I believe my purpose is to be an inspiration to others.  The reason I feel this way is I have gone through some pretty bad things during my lifetime.  I know what it is like to go through difficulties from an early age.  I had to grow up fast at an early age of 10.  During and after all the hard times I had experienced, I never turned to drugs, alcoholism, depression or suicide.  I want you to strive and move forward and never allow the situations to hinder your future.

I want to tell everyone my story to give them courage that they are able to overcome everything that comes at them.  I have asked GOD over and over WHY me and I seem to hear well my daughter I made you STRONG you can handle it, are you ready for the next situation because, it’s going to get a lot worse!

There have been many times that I have been used and abused and yet I look back and think that had to take place in order for me to be where I am now and where I am headed.

Seeking an Abundant Life in Baking by using Gods Ingredients

Why I choose the name “Seeking an Abundant Life in Baking by using Gods Ingredients” as my area of focus, is rather simple!  God provides all the ingredients we just need to better understand the ingredients purpose.  I want children to see what God can do for them through Him,

God has provided me the key ingredient to teach the children with.

Question: What is your purpose in this God-given life of yours?


Who needs good guidance?  We all do! We may need to be re-guided from time to time.  The right guidance should start when we are infants.  But, when the parents are not able to do the right kind of guiding, other generations are taking hold of the opportunity.  As we guide these children we must allow them to be what God wants them to be.

There have been many times that I have been used and abused and yet I look back and think that had to take place in order  for me to be where I am now, which is to help others from being in those type of relationships.

My Prior Business

At my business I never had any age restrictions because after all why restrict them from expressing themselves.  We are in their lives to give them an opportunity and to encourage them.

Educational Life Skills

The educational life skills are designed to help children strengthen their chances of a bright future.  Mentoring children will give them the confidence and self-sufficiency for an independent life.  I want to see these children to understand what God can do for them through us.

Through prayer I will ask God to direct me on how to orchestrate and guide you or them the right direction.  I hope you will be there for Gods precious and vulnerable children in a positive and an encouraging way.

God has provided me the key ingredient to teach the children with.

To be it, you must seek it!


No Longer In Denial

Realize You Are Not God!

I admit that I am powerless to control my tendency to do the wrong thing and that my life is unmanageable. Happy are those who know they are spiritually poor Matthew 5:3

Realize We Are Powerless

We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and our compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but, I cannot carry it out. Romans 7:18

We Must Admit Our Denial

We must first face and admit our denial. God tells us, ” You can’t heal a wound by saying it’s not there! Jeremiah 6:14. The acrostic for DENIAL spells out what can happen if we do not face our denial.

We Must Understand Our Emotions

By repressing our feelings we freeze our emotions. Understanding and feeling our feelings is freedom. They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of destructive habits – for a man is a slave of anything that has conquered him. 2 Peter 2:19

Ohhh That Is Where Anxiety Comes From

A side effect off our denial is anxiety. Anxiety causes us to wast precious energy running from our past and worrying about and dreading the future. It is only in the present, today, where positive change can occur. He frees the prisoners…he lifts the burdens from those bent down beneath their loads. Psalm 146:7-8

Secrets Be Told

We are as sick as our secrets. We cannot grow until we are ready to step out of our denial into the truth. They cried to the Lord in their troubles, and He rescued them! He led them from their darkness and shadow of death and snapped their chains. Psalm 107:13-14

Let the Light Shine In The Darkness

God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with Him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live by the truth. But if we walk in the flight, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from all sin 1 John 1:5-7

We Are Getting Away With It

Denial tells us we are getting away with it. We think no one knows – but they do. What is the answer? Stop lying to each other, tell the truth, for we are parts of each other and when we lie to each other we are hurting ourselves Ephesians 4:25

But, I Feel Protected

We have the false belief that denial protects us from our pain. In reality, denial allows our pain to fester and grow and turn into shame and guilt. God’s promise: I will give you back your health again and heal your wounds. Jeremiah 30:17 Step out of your denial! Step into your Higher Power’s – Jesus Christ’s unconditional love and grace!

What areas of your life do you have control over?
What areas of your life are out of control, unmanageable?
When you were a child, what coping skills did you use to get attention or to protect yourself?
In your family of origin, what was the family secret that everyone was trying to protect?
How do you handle pain and disappointment?
How can you begin to discuss your denial?
In what areas of your life are you now beginning to face reality and break the effects of denial?

F.E.A.R. = Fear stands for (False Evidence Appearing Real)