Forgiveness is NOT

  • Forgetting the memory of a past offense does not just disappear; the fact that you remember what happened does NOT mean you haven’t forgiven.
  • Minimizing, ignoring, or denying the offense.
  • Forgiveness does not mean that what happened to you was acceptable or excusable.
  • Instant healing from an offense takes time: forgiveness is necessary for full healing, but healing doesn’t happen immediately.
  • Removal of consequences even though you forgive someone, there may still be emotional, relational behavioral, or legal consequences for the offense.
  • Restoration is when we forgive someone, there are still actions the other person must take to restore what was damaged (if possible or to begin to rebuild trust of appropriate).

Forgiveness IS

  • An act of grace through forgiveness we extend to others the deep love and grace God has abundantly lavished on us.
  • A process as often as the offense comes to mind, we continue to lay it down and remind ourselves that we have forgiven the offender.
  • A releasing of our desire for revenge.  Forgiveness moves us toward a place where we can lay down our anger and resentment and begin to desire the spiritual good of the offending party.
  • An entrusting of our past and future to God in faith we surrender our hurts and our heart to our Heavenly Father, who is faithful, just and good.
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