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What Does Safe or Never Giving Up Look Like?

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Today, I come to you to share a resent experience that no parent wants to experience.

A couple of years ago, my son decided to move out with some ‘friends’.  I continued my mission of being a concerned parent.  I reached out to him by calling him and texting him. Eventually, those messages became void.  He didn’t respond that often if at all.  So, I would resend those same messages again.  Those messages were messages of love, concern and not condemnation.  Being human we want to judge, accuse and vent but, I choose to show unconditional love.  During this time I was in a relationship with a man that I planned to marry.  I honestly feel that my son thought he was being abandoned because, of all more poor choices that I had made in men. Eventually, I got married, we then combined households to where I was residing to complete the lease I was in.  So, the pressure on my son was on him and his belongings. Even, though I said you can live here with us, but, I have not seen you for months. Eventually, my son and his friends came to pickup his stuff. As time went on I reached out to my son, trying to make time for him each and every week.  Telling him let’s go out to eat, or do something you enjoy doing.  I wanted my son to know he is loved and he can come to me anytime and I will be there for him. I mentored my son weekly if not daily.

Eventually, the poor choices caught up with him.  He had tickets that he received when he was riding on his motorcycle, these tickets turned to unpaid tickets, court and work project that didn’t happened so it landed him in jail for a couple of days. During, his jail time, I asked God to grab a hold of my son and show him he is meant for more in life then the motorcycle club he was caught up in.  My son was released from jail and his father picked him up.  His father and step-mother went and saw him.

I never went to see him.  Why?  Because, I didn’t want to see him in jail.  I wanted him to feel the pain of someone not being present in their life.

We had lunch together a day or two later, where my son said to me, you don’t love me, if you did you would have come to see me in jail.  I said, I love you but, I don’t want to see you there in that predicament.  I felt I would be condoning his behavior, poor choices, by being there for him when it was too late.  Or was it too late?  I planned to go, then, I thought should I go see him?  I wanted him to have this time to repent, and think about things the direction he was headed.  I knew the time was not long lived (a couple of days). He shared with me that this was something he never wanted to experience again.  He shared many more things with me.

I continued my mission of being a parent that loved, cared for and I still was concerned for my son.  I continued to text and call him.  One week when I had to travel out of town for work.  I couldn’t sleep for two days.  I kept having bad dreams about my son.  Then, off topic my sister called me about health concerns for our mom.  So, I texted my son about this…didn’t hear from him for a few days.  Then, a phone call came in, where my son was on the other end asking for help.  He was trying to self medicate due to a tragedy that took place at the age of 13 years old.  My son was having withdrawals and having suicidal thoughts.  I prayed for him and asked where he was at the time, he said I am on my way to you.  I said, I can come get you.  He said he was okay to drive, so we talked for a while on the phone.  I continued praying that he would arrive safely to my doorstep and I prayed that he would follow through with getting help by heading to emergency when he arrived.  I met him in the front of the house.  He got out of the car and came and hugged me, cried, sobbed, shared his thoughts and his feelings.  My spouse drove us to emergency.

 

 

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Denial Time!

No Longer In Denial

Realize You Are Not God!

I admit that I am powerless to control my tendency to do the wrong thing and that my life is unmanageable. Happy are those who know they are spiritually poor Matthew 5:3

Realize We Are Powerless

We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and our compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but, I cannot carry it out. Romans 7:18

We Must Admit Our Denial

We must first face and admit our denial. God tells us, ” You can’t heal a wound by saying it’s not there! Jeremiah 6:14. The acrostic for DENIAL spells out what can happen if we do not face our denial.

We Must Understand Our Emotions

By repressing our feelings we freeze our emotions. Understanding and feeling our feelings is freedom. They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of destructive habits – for a man is a slave of anything that has conquered him. 2 Peter 2:19

Ohhh That Is Where Anxiety Comes From

A side effect off our denial is anxiety. Anxiety causes us to wast precious energy running from our past and worrying about and dreading the future. It is only in the present, today, where positive change can occur. He frees the prisoners…he lifts the burdens from those bent down beneath their loads. Psalm 146:7-8

Secrets Be Told

We are as sick as our secrets. We cannot grow until we are ready to step out of our denial into the truth. They cried to the Lord in their troubles, and He rescued them! He led them from their darkness and shadow of death and snapped their chains. Psalm 107:13-14

Let the Light Shine In The Darkness

God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with Him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live by the truth. But if we walk in the flight, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from all sin 1 John 1:5-7

We Are Getting Away With It

Denial tells us we are getting away with it. We think no one knows – but they do. What is the answer? Stop lying to each other, tell the truth, for we are parts of each other and when we lie to each other we are hurting ourselves Ephesians 4:25

But, I Feel Protected

We have the false belief that denial protects us from our pain. In reality, denial allows our pain to fester and grow and turn into shame and guilt. God’s promise: I will give you back your health again and heal your wounds. Jeremiah 30:17 Step out of your denial! Step into your Higher Power’s – Jesus Christ’s unconditional love and grace!

What areas of your life do you have control over?
What areas of your life are out of control, unmanageable?
When you were a child, what coping skills did you use to get attention or to protect yourself?
In your family of origin, what was the family secret that everyone was trying to protect?
How do you handle pain and disappointment?
How can you begin to discuss your denial?
In what areas of your life are you now beginning to face reality and break the effects of denial?

F.E.A.R. = Fear stands for (False Evidence Appearing Real)

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Then Jesus declared, I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.John 6:35

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My question to you before we get started is, if you were given an opportunity to change another person’s life by writing a book about you, what form would the book be written in which form would you use; drama, comedy, action, adventure, love, abuse or another venture?

The lessons I had to learn while I was seeking an abundant life in baking.

Seeking An

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33

Abundant

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life and have it to the full. John 10:10

Life In

In him was life and that life was the light of all mankind.  John 1:4

Baking Using

But he insisted so strongly that they did go with him and entered his house.

He prepared a meal for them, baking bread without yeast and they ate. Genesis 19:3

Gods Key Ingredients

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.

Hebrews 11:1

 

My Purpose

Before we can get to where we need to be, we must first learn what it takes to get us to where we need to be.  I will be describing an ingredient that can be used various ways.  I can honestly say it has taken me over 40 years to figure out what my purpose is. I will also share my life as a daughter that once was lost but, since has been found.

This is my key ingredient and its purpose. I am describing myself as I also talk about the ingredient; variations, purpose and outcome.  As you read along I want you to think long and hard about you as a person.

I can be soft

I can harden

I can be firm

I can be refined

I can be formed

I can be appealing

I can make things taste great

I can add multiple items to it

I can add different flavors

I can have zest or I can remain bland

I can fill in for others

I can absorb and retain

I can spread into others lives

I can be formed for multi-uses

I can smell good I can taste great

I can be peeled away from the source.

I can be planted in all circumstances yet stand strong in all conditions.

I can add variations; nuts, fruits, sweetness,

Although I do need refinement, but, through grace that will

continue well into my well being.

I am at a point that I need future development because I have multiple uses.

What am I?

My life will be demonstrated to you as a _______you may ask why that is, it is because I have so many uses just like you do!  I can be used in various ways just like you!  I can be soft or harden to stand the test it’s being given at the time.  Using this analogy is how I will continue to fulfill my purpose.

This is my story that I am sticking with because, I have lots to share!  I am versatile!  When I have been used in various situations I have always tried to have the situation come out for the better.  After all, the definition for _______ is;  peel away, seed, developing, sprouting, to be harvested, refined, with many uses and  future developments.  I pray that God opens the field for multi harvests.  I have been used, abused and attacked all because of nuts in and out of my life and mostly because of their circumstances.  Yet, after countless trials and errors on my part I have become a new creation where I can stand stronger knowing God has my back and I seek him in all that I do.  I want to be the _______ or should I say I want you to use this perception for your life (make it your own) ingredient or recipe.

Origin

What is your ingredients origin, mine is that it must be cultivated in cool climates for human consumption.  Focus on where you came from, what you need to change and where you want to be for your future generations.

Uses

_______close up you may see a beautiful floret (small flower).  Look at yourself as an infant, small yet you are Gods creation, so you have a purpose to be used to.  We are much like ingredients we all have some similarities and numerous uses.  You will be used for the greater good ______rolled or crushed, ground into fine _____.  Consumption of _______  is like absorbing books that speak life into your life.  ______is mostly eaten as a cereal item, but has many other uses for baking in cookies and breads.  Our broken hearts become new that is what faith can do!  Sometimes as we are refined our hearts can be crushed during the process. Your heart may be crushed, but, your spirit never will be.  The ______ hull may be crushed, rolled or crimped.  Be careful of what you allow into your life.  ______is straw it is soft, relatively and has an absorbent nature.  How are you projecting yourself in the public eye? ______is the outer casing of the _____.  Are you filling yourself with knowledge and understanding?  _____ contain more soluble fiber than any other grain, resulting in slower digestion and an extended sensation of fullness.  When it comes to a coarse grain and dryness within your bread it may be because you have too much flour in the recipe, your dough was not have been kneaded long enough, your rising period was left for too long of a time frame and the temperature for the oven was too low.  Are you keeping your purity for a spouse?  If not how is your weed control for your key ingredient?  Honoring God, Incorporate the fruit of the spirit program.  ______ just like us go through so much.  Let me explain what oat goes through.  It’s cultivated, in various climates, it is grown for consumption, it is yielded, has many uses, oat starts out as a small floret, can have multiple formations, similarities, numerous uses, it is rolled, it is crushed, it is ground, it is refined and it is crushed during the process, hull, rolled, crimped, straw is soft, it has an absorbent nature, there is an outer casing, it is soluble, it is slow to digest, you will feel a sensation of fullness, control, vigorous growth, choke out, free from diseases and pests, storage, transported, augured and conveyed, piled, stored, aerated or dried, cleansing and sizing, the foreign material is removed, de-hulling, symmetrical acceleration, separated outer hull from inner groats, fed by gravity onto spinning stone, accelerates toward outer ring, separated on impact, light aspirated away, denser taken to the next step of processing, used, processed further, insoluble, fuel.  This has been much like my life and all because I did not want to listen to my parents.  I have always had a father to turn too, but, choose not to.

 

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Ah, Sovereign Lord , you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and outstretched arm. Nothing is too hard for you.
Jeremiah 32 NIV

http://bible.com/111/jer.32.17.NIV

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
Joshua 1 NIV

http://bible.com/111/jos.1.9.NIV

However, as it is written: “What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived” — the things God has prepared for those who love him—
1 Corinthians 2 NIV

http://bible.com/111/1co.2.9.NIV

I ask of you to support Mozambicans in this period where deaths are pretty frequent and floods are extremely destroying thousands of houses. May God extend his mighty hand and have mercy.

https://mobilising.salvationarmy.org/#!/participate/pray/8a8083325a61b7ce015ad8c51ebc03e1

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